tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19646581.post115613212119877964..comments2024-03-09T02:32:34.549-06:00Comments on Dr. Melissa Clouthier: Anger & Internal CombustionMelissa Clouthierhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15864991953502438461noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19646581.post-1156193094271011762006-08-21T14:44:00.000-06:002006-08-21T14:44:00.000-06:00Sharon, you are so right! Also, peeling the onion...Sharon, you are so right! Also, peeling the onion further back will give us a better understanding of why anger is there to begin with. Lots and lots of times there are fears, hurts, lack of acceptance, and so on that play such a role in this emotion called "anger". When our children get really angry, can we push our emotions aside for a moment and look at that child closer to find out where the anger is coming from?<BR/>With some understanding and love it is surprising how anger will settle itself down. <BR/>MAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19646581.post-1156184841238899092006-08-21T12:27:00.000-06:002006-08-21T12:27:00.000-06:00I think the deal with anger, especially from a wom...I think the deal with anger, especially from a woman's perspective, is that all our lives, we're expected to be sweet, demure, encouraged not to express our feelings if they might make someone else uncomfortable, and then when those feelings boil over because they've not been validated and the root problem never addressed, we're not allowed an emotional outburst to get the attention of those who ought to be teaching us how to deal with our emotions. Perhaps I'm generalizing, but I think it's a rarity that a little girl (or boy, for that matter) is taught HOW to deal with anger (and various other emotions that we, as parents, don't always know what to do with, because, well, we were once little girls and little boys who were not taught how to deal with various emotions). <BR/><BR/>Maybe if more of us in this parenting generation can begin working with our children about owning their feelings and emotions...that it's OKAY to feel these things, but then explore how our children can productively deal with those situations and emotions. Someone has to stop sweeping the emotions under the rug...might as well be us.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com