tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19646581.post7777531588141787146..comments2024-03-09T02:32:34.549-06:00Comments on Dr. Melissa Clouthier: Elder CareMelissa Clouthierhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15864991953502438461noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19646581.post-23143049958357173162006-12-07T21:36:00.000-06:002006-12-07T21:36:00.000-06:00Socialized care is not really welfare though. Eur...Socialized care is not really welfare though. European pay a hefty amount out of each pay check to have socialized care. But I do know what you are saying. I don't think it's the answer either. But we do have a delima, don't we?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19646581.post-72848345973427039812006-12-07T09:28:00.000-06:002006-12-07T09:28:00.000-06:00One of the links mentions that Boomers are more li...One of the links mentions that Boomers are more likely than their parents to care for the elderly. I think there are a couple reasons for this: the mortality rate has declined. People are living longer. The financial specter of having an aged parent in an Old Folks Home for twenty years is crazy.<br /><br />Also, the Boomers would love for their parents to show demonstrable love. <br /><br />With the Gen X generation having children late--imagine the crunch. Children at home and aging parents. Wrap divorce into this equation.<br /><br />Not good. Is socializing the elder years the answer? Not a good one. Americans don't do so well with any form of welfare. Remember the bleak Insane Asylums of the 70s? Can you imagine Boomers putting up with that?<br /><br />Of course, as we age, we don't have many choices in the matter. Be nice to your children.Melissa Clouthierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15864991953502438461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19646581.post-80629715552120497902006-12-07T08:20:00.000-06:002006-12-07T08:20:00.000-06:00In situations such as this post describes, I wonde...In situations such as this post describes, I wonder if socialized care is not the better way after all.<br /><br />If the Boomers themselves have difficult marriages, or getting divoreced...(as you mentioned it seems to be in vogue with our generation), and, if there is a job change or lay off, it makes it all the more difficult for them to take care of their aging parents.<br /><br />This is a very difficult problem that so many of us are facing or will be facing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19646581.post-67652460503933638312006-12-07T07:54:00.000-06:002006-12-07T07:54:00.000-06:00Dealing with aging parents is far more complicated...Dealing with aging parents is far more complicated then anyone of the boomer generation ever imagined. Once you enter the "tough choices" zone, it gets even more problematic. I published an article for boomers about how to communicate tough choices to aging parents that echoes the issues of the blog post. The link is on the top, right-hand side of my web page: www.dsolie.com<br /><br />Thanks of your candid comments,<br /><br />David Solie, MS, PA<br />Author, How To Say It To Seniors: Closing the Communication Gap with Our Elders<br />800-225-9844, extension 132<br />www.dsolie.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19646581.post-85753026509376460132006-12-06T16:47:00.000-06:002006-12-06T16:47:00.000-06:00I write an elder care column and receive many ques...I write an elder care column and receive many questions along this line. People like to think all families were "the Waltons." Most were not. Some have more issues than others, but the strain shows heavily as a generation ages and the boomer's begin to be caregivers.<br /><br />You are so right - your family background is what is going to be more and more common, with multiple marriages, step-siblings and other complications. These will be interesting times.<br /><br />A very good post. I'll be adding a link to your blog from mine at www.mindingoureldersblogs.com.<br />Best,<br />CarolAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19646581.post-65055935378832040742006-12-06T15:47:00.000-06:002006-12-06T15:47:00.000-06:00Strange that you posted on this today. This topic...Strange that you posted on this today. This topic just came up with us yesterday. My husband had a alcoholic father who emotionally never was there for him. His parents divorced and re-married. His father's health is poor and the relationship with his son is strained. <br /><br /> My fathers health is poor as well, major heart problems. He has never saved a penny in his life, I've even slept in the car before because he did not have money to get a place. We now sent him money each month. He never was there for me ever, and once we were together he was abusive physically and sexually. It is difficult to know what to do. It makes one more determined to do our job as parents, hopefully a little better. I hope and pray!!! Thank you for this post!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com