tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19646581.post8144360808949089160..comments2024-03-09T02:32:34.549-06:00Comments on Dr. Melissa Clouthier: Making Babies the New Fashioned WayMelissa Clouthierhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15864991953502438461noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19646581.post-75661483208107472712007-01-07T19:02:00.000-06:002007-01-07T19:02:00.000-06:00Christy're,
You're absolutely right. A woman is i...Christy're,<br /><br />You're absolutely right. A woman is in a catch-22. I married at 22, worked two years, started Chiropractic College. Got pregnant as an intern (if I'd waited to "get my career established" I would have been in my early thirties). I knew, for a fact, that I wanted children. I also knew the medical risks of waiting.<br /><br />As it was, I was thoroughly exhausted and depleted which contributed to me delivering my twins prematurely. I don't know what I'll recommend to my daughter. Once you have kids, going back to school is 10x harder. But having children (maybe) in your thirties is no guarantee either.<br /><br />And yes, with the way I grew up, grad school was a hedge against divorce or death. Not very optimistic, 'eh? But as it turns out, my husband did get cancer at 35. One thing I didn't worry about was supporting myself. Of course, we could have saved the student loans and just bought a monster life insurance policy. Ha! But that wouldn't help if he was disabled.<br /><br />So yes, it's a conundrum. And too, once I'm done raising the kids I have a nice profession to go back to full-time. I don't have to worry about being hired at the bottom. I also keep up professionally.<br /><br />Tough choices. Motherhood, though, does have a time limit.Melissa Clouthierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15864991953502438461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19646581.post-22418888208416452852007-01-07T17:07:00.000-06:002007-01-07T17:07:00.000-06:00Hmm, interesting! I know she has been doing acupu...Hmm, interesting! I know she has been doing acupuncture and diet modification since the summer but it didn't help her get pregnant (although it did help her lose some stubborn weight!). She is 34 and I know she struggles with having waited "so long" to have started trying. She and her husband both have minor issues that put together have caused them not to be able to conceive. <br /><br />I think a huge part of the issue of infertility is that women are taught the sacred order of things--college, grad school, work, marry, work some more until your career is fully established, then have a baby. That usually takes until a woman is at least 31-32 if she met her husband in her twenties. <br /><br />Or, of course, a woman has the option to take her chances by having her children in her twenties without having established her career. For many women this is a daunting idea due to the high divorce rate. Many women look upon their career as their insurance of sorts--and in many offices, having kids in your twenties will brand you as the "breeder"--not promotion material.<br /><br />It's a catch-22 in my opinion. I chose option two but I'm not much worried about divorce. However I know women who always have that need for career insurance in the back of their minds.Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09223044868130142733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19646581.post-68983551329230878992007-01-07T00:30:00.000-06:002007-01-07T00:30:00.000-06:00What if, on clomid, she throws five eggs and ferti...What if, on clomid, she throws five eggs and fertilizes four? Will she do a "reduction"? No. She's Catholic.<br /><br />Will she have a very good chance of children with problems? Yes.<br /><br />I'm not saying that infertility isn't heart-breaking. It is. But there is no intervention that doesn't have ethical problems. "Steroid conception" included.<br /><br />This of course, is easy for me to say. I have had no problem getting pregnant. But I started in my 20s, too. When you start older, your fertility diminishes. And, keep in mind that the #1 cause of infertility is genital warts causing cervical scarring and sometimes cancer. This is wholly preventable.<br /><br />The slope gets slippery fast. Too slippery. Now, I'm all for non-invasive interventions. In fact, acupuncture has a success rate identical to hormone treatement. We've had great success in our office with getting women hormonally, emotionally, and nutritionally balanced. In addition, getting the body aligned helps, too. We have lots of babies born...with no invasive procedures.<br /><br />I believe that in absence of pathology, the body doesn't get pregnant for very good reasons. Once the causes are resolved, a baby often comes along.Melissa Clouthierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15864991953502438461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19646581.post-67776102449073422452007-01-06T19:21:00.000-06:002007-01-06T19:21:00.000-06:00I'm curious as to how you feel about the procedure...I'm curious as to how you feel about the procedure where a woman takes Clomid and her husband's sperm is distilled and inserted into her at the scientifically-determined time of ovulation? A friend of mine is going through this and since she and her husband are Catholics, it's where they'll draw the line, but their two years of trying for a baby naturally have come up with nothing so far. They definitely don't want to do a petri dish baby but they feel that conceiving on steroids (so to speak) is less ethically questionable.<br /><br />??Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09223044868130142733noreply@blogger.com