Well. In this age where we're so politically correct, it's offensive to acknowledge penis or vagina ownership (we're neutered, don't you know) because it's divisive. In this age where New York is playing nutritionist to the vast, dull-witted hoards, (Ace says Michael Bloomberg is having a stroke) is it any wonder that places like the Heart Attack Grill pop up all over?
The nurses find this place distasteful. Probably, so, but who cares?
This is America. If men want live out multiple fantasies in one spot, more power to 'em. Ogling pretty, scantily-clad "nurses" while eating disgustingly awful food? It's a two-fer and it's legal, if not a bit silly.
I've always thought that Americans tend to be really hypocritical when it comes to matters of sex. Pornography in this country is at it's all time high...I would like to know who all those people are.
ReplyDeleteHmmm, something just does not add up.
anon...when people say "Americans tend to X" or "our society is/does X," I always wonder: have they made a cross-cultural study and determined that this country is uniquely culpable in X, or are they confusing typical human behavior with unique American behavior?
ReplyDeleteDavid, your point is very well taken. I can only compare to our European counterparts when it comes to sexual matters. They are much more open and honest about that subject and thus less is "hidden". Here so much is done in the "closet" because we fear ridicule or we feel ashamed.
ReplyDeleteNo, personally, I have not done a study. But TV shows have been done on this very subject and many hours of conversations have been put into this to analyse this phenomenon. Our country on the whole is also much more evangelical in its approach, and that, I'm sure has much to do with the feeling of wanting to "hide" true feelings and needs when it comes to sexuality.
I don't know if there is an easy answer to this.
What is your opinion?
Hey Melissa, you are in the lead right now. I hope you win!!! :-)
ReplyDeleteSorry, looked at it wrong. But you are the second runner up right now. Very cool!
ReplyDeleteanon...I think there are huge differences among countries in Europe, and among social groups within particular countries.
ReplyDeleteAs far as the present-day US goes, I see very little evidence that large numbers of people are repressing or hiding their sexuality.
Thanks David, I always like hearing someones opinion. I don't necessarily agree though. :-)
ReplyDeleteHowever, I'm always open to search matters out. I'll look into this subject a bit more. I may come back and write again.
David, I took just a few moments this morning to find articles that we have read and programs we have seen. I can't find them right now and need to search a bit longer and time does not permit that at the moment. However, by just clicking on other sites and articles, it only confirms what my thinking is in that area.
ReplyDeleteA book I want to order and read is:
"America's Sexuality Crisis" -Hastings,Anne Stirling
I also found, but I'm not sure I find it valid is: "America's War on Sex" Marty Klein, PhD
If I had more time, I would find much more, I'm sure.
I recently was in a Seminar and the question was posed, "how many in here have been sexually molested"?
I was shocked to see that almost 3/4 of the room raised their hands.
I think we have a problem!
What I'm not sure about is the rate of molestation among Europeans. But my professional experience would curl your hair. One week I every new woman patient had a history of either rape or molestation.
ReplyDeleteBut I'm not sure sexual molestation is a sex problem, per se. It is sexual, but the primary motivation is anger towards women. Men who are emotionally immature and cannot handle an adult, female, peer-to-peer relationship, who has repressed issues with his own mother and father and was taught to use manipulation and coercian are perfectly acceptable means of communication, THAT man molests. Often times, drugs and alcohol are involved. Even more times, the mother of the molestation victim was molested herself and turns a blind eye to the evidence. In this way, the problems persist.
I think it could be argued that the prevalence of pornography has INCREASED molestation. When men can get on their computers and see pictures of "adult" women who look thirteen with a shaved public region making them look even more child-like, and when they get habituated to only being able to enjoy sexual satisfaction in those circumstances, this makes them more likely to view a child as a peer.
This is a very un-PC view, I know. It's very chic and urbane to opine about American's sexual repression. Puritans and all. Well, I've been to Mont Marte and seen the Parisians schtupping on the hill at lunch time. France has one of the most nihilistic cultures (Germany beats them) around and THAT has documented evidence.
America has a more optimistic culture, but there are some dark sides to it. I think the automatic fall-back position of sexual repression is facile. And more importantly, untrue.
It would be very interesting to see a study of comparison done on this. Or, perhaps comparing would be infentile, but rather just to understand it irregardless what country it took place would be a better view point. We are dealing with human beings...I suppose human sexuality is what it is no matter where they live. I personally am alarmed when I hear that sex is now taking place in middle school. I've even heard of it younger then that. The molestation thing was only one example that I sited. (It does not suprise me at the least that so many patients have had this issue).
ReplyDeleteSexual frustration and repression shows its head in many different forms. One article that I read this morning mentioned lack of education and understanding. It says that there simply is not enough good education out there that deal with sexuality. Or at least not enough to counter all the adds, commercials, hollywood's versions of what sexuality is all about. Folks are getting the wrong messages. To say that there is not a problem is to put your head in the sand, pretending it is not there and hoping it goes away. I have yet to see that method work. It never, ever does!!!
What is "schtupping"?
ReplyDeleteA euphamism for sexual intercourse.
ReplyDeleteI've never heard that word before. Is that really a "real english word"? Could not find it in the dictionary. :-)
ReplyDeleteYiddish. Check an on-line dictionary.
ReplyDeleteHmm, just looked it up on OneLook Dictionary Search and it's not bringing "schtupping" up. I take your word for it tough. I think it is funny and shall use it sometime when I'm trying to be funny! :-)
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