This trend is beyond reprehensible. How will this boy feel when he grows up, when he finds out that he had the neurology to hear and his parents withheld the ability from him--on purpose. He has no choice in the matter.
But a desire for children with genetic defects isn’t new. In 2002, for example, The Washington Post Magazine profiled Candace A. McCullough and Sharon M. Duchesneau, a lesbian and deaf couple from Maryland who both attended Gallaudet University and set out to have a deaf child by intentionally soliciting a deaf sperm donor.
“A hearing baby would be a blessing,” Ms. Duchesneau was quoted as saying. “A deaf baby would be a special blessing.”
Born five years ago on Thanksgiving Day, the couple’s son, Gauvin, was mostly deaf, and his parents chose to withhold any hearing aids.
Can the narcissism that grips our current world get any more entrenched? Children aren't their own people in this view, they are cultivated in a petri dish to be mini-mes.
Barbara Spiegel, a homemaker in Maine who has dwarfism, had a first pregnancy that ended in miscarriage. She underwent genetic testing during her second pregnancy, and because of a laboratory mix-up involving petri dishes, was told that her child would grow to normal height. She would have loved the child, she said, but in an interview, she recalled thinking, “What is life going to be like for her, when her parents are different than she is?”Um, her life is going to be like every other kid in the world who views their parents as freaks at a certain point. This kind of nonsense is what keeps children of color from being adopted into different colored families.
Oh, that there were some guarantees about familial bonding. But more than that, having children is not like buying a toy or a pet chinchilla. The child is a unique individual not an accessory. And the first rule about parenting is to leave the selfishness behind.
Parenting: It's NOT about you.