There IS a never-never land between insufficient communication and actions taken, i.e. the Grey Zone that exists between Date Rape and Consensual false-protests. However, the solution is rather old fashioned:
- Girls, don't drink, do drugs, and learn to communicate clearly.
- Boys, always be a gentleman. That means no sex with a girl who is wasted. That means initiating communication before you unzip your pants.
The problem of course, is that moral standards have become so lax and the people engaging in this behavior are emotionally immature.
My rule? If you can't talk about sex, you shouldn't be having it.